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When being "right" is so wrong

Have you ever heard the saying "no one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care?" This is a commentary on how some people may have all the right facts and knowledge, but no one cares because Mr. Know-it-all doesn't actually care about the person they are speaking to. Well, I think I want to invent a new saying. It isn't as snappy, but it is along a similar theme. It would go something like:

"Being right is sometimes right. Being right can also be wrong. But Love is always right."

There are some in the Christian faith who want to be "right" at all costs. From my perspective, being "right" seems to be the goal. Objective, universal truth and the DEFENSE of that truth, is the end all and be all. And they will push through, run over, go through any idea OR person that gets in the way of what they know to be "right." It feels at times like the religious leaders that Jesus often had conflict. While the religious would sit around and debate "who is my neighbor," the Samaritan is busy caring for the one in trouble. It seems to me that being "right" is so not the point.

In no way would I want to be ignorant or false. I really don't like to be wrong either. But it seems to me that implicit in faith is the possibility that I could be wrong. What I want is to be real and authentic. And I want to be faithful and true. But I am finding there are many times when I can be "right" from my own perspective, and get it so wrong...because I did not have love to the one who saw things from a different perspective.

Love and humility seem to me to be always right. I pray for more of these things in my life. And in yours.

So Unexpected...

A good friend of mine lost his sister this weekend. A week ago, she started to have flu like symptoms and Saturday night she died. The doctor say it was a staff infection that caused her body to go septic and her organs began to shut down from there. She was 46 years old, a runner and in good health. She leaves behind a husband and three kids, ages 15, 12, and 8.


"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. 15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, 16 your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. "
Psalm 139:14-16


I am grieving with my friend. And I do not understand. No one can possibly understand the mind of God in times like this. Parents are not supposed to bury their children. Children of such a young age should not have to bury their parents. And yet I know God is there with this family and greiving and caring for them like only God can do.

I am thankful that God has seen it all and is greeting my friends sister, having lived all the days ordained for her.

Man's Search for Meaning

I am just now discovering Viktor Frankl's book Man's Search for Meaning. This little book has sold over 10 million copies world-wide, over three million copies in English. Frankl, a psychiarist by training, tells the story of his four years in the prison work camps during World War 2. The second half of his book goes on to speak of his discipline in psychiatry called logotherapy. There is so much in the little book of such great value, it is difficult to choose what I want to write about. I must start somewhere, and so I have chosen the following quote from page 64.

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"a man's suffering is similar to the behavior of gas. If a certain quantity of gas is pumped into an empty chamber, it will fill the chamber completely and evenly, no matter how big the chamber. Thus suffering completely fills the human soul and conscious mind, no matter whether the suffering is great or little. Therefore the "size" of human suffering is absolutely relative."

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I have often thought when I was suffering from some "little" pain, that it was not worth trifling over becasue, after all, there are so many others out there who have "big" suffering. No doubt my work as pastor, in some of my ignorant or hard-hearted times, has left little room for empathy or compassion to the "little" suffering of others when, after all, little children are starving from lack of food, or people have buried every family member due to AIDS. My pain, or the pain of my fellow suburbanites, always seemed less than others "out there" in my heart and mind.

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And yet, if Frankl is correct, pain and suffering is real and relative. If his analogy is correct, it is not appropriate to compare the suffering of one to the suffering of another. Every human soul will indeed be filled with suffering, and like a gas, it will fill the soul completely. This is real. And it is also relative to the individual soul.

My call and task is not to "judge" the suffering of one or another. I think my call and task is to share in the suffering of my fellow brothers and sisters. Each person, including myself, will have suffering that is real and consuming. My task is not to "judge" it, but to share in it.

The Gospel and Transformation

I just had a very good friend return from South Africa. He is the same friend who took me there just over a year ago. It is SO AMAZING to hear him talk of his experiences there. The devestation occuring as a result of AIDS and poverty, the dangers from thugs and car-jackers, the amazing transformation of lives and hope represented in some of the ministries there. It is all so overwhelming and stirring just hearing my friend share his trip. But there was one question in particular in the midst of our 45 minutes together that got me thinking. While there, my friend saw radical life change in many, many people. I am talking about the kind of life change where a drug user and dealer has now quit cold turkey. A thug and criminal is now living the straight and narrow. A once hopeless and helpless bum has hope and drive for his future. And the numbers of people who have experienced such radical life change is staggering. These stories that are happening every day over there would make the front stage of our church as a BIG DEAL. And they are common place over there.

This lead to the following question:

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Why is the gospel of Jesus Christ making such a radical impact and changing lives over in South Africa, and not here in Indiana (or America)?

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Don't get me wrong...it is not to say that the gospel is not impacting lives here. But it seems life change in episodes...maybe one here or there. I would contend my church is pretty relevant and effective in our culture, but we don't see the kind of positive life change happening every day like there. The impact is expotentially less.

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Why?

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I have no real answers. But my gut and my own experience both in South Africa and here in the US tells me it is true. Lives are changing radically over there, but not so much here.

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I have been reading a book called Under the Unpredictable Plant, but Eugene Peterson. It is a book written for pastors on how to cultivate a spiritual life in the midst of working as a pastor. Peterson makes a big deal out of our consumer culture here in America. He says on page 80 and 81 "The people in our congregations are, in fact, out shopping for idols. They enter our churches with the same mind-set in which they go to the shopping mall, to get something that will please them or satisfy an appetite or need."

"Mostly they want to be there own god and stay in control but have ancillary idol assistance for the hard parts, which the pastor can show them how to get."

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I am wondering if Peterson is on to something of an answer to my question in his book. Peterson talks in metaphors at times, and one I like is the idea of being a farmer and working the soil. If the soil is the culture by which we work in, I wonder how different the soil is in South Africa than in America? Perhaps in America our consumer culture has created a soil that does not allow for the gospel to take root and grow up in the way that changes lives so radically.

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And if this is in fact the reality of our soil, I do have great hope. Maybe if we can change the soil a bit, the gospel will find root, and this sleeping giant that is the American Church just might awake. Oh man...then what might happen. Poverty? Aids? Irrelevance? No more. But what will it take to change the soil? Another good question. I think I am only allowed one per blog.

"Defending the promise..."

I recently downloaded and listened to a Catalyst Podcast where they were interviewing Tim Sanders (here is his official web-site and his blog if you want to check them out: http://www.timsanders.com/ and http://sanderssays.typepad.com/). The interview was interesting on the whole, but one thing in particular stuck out that I want to comment on here.
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Tim said "15 years from now leadership is not gonna to be about new ideas...it is not gonna be about project work. In the future, leadership is gonna be about defending the promise behind the mission. Leadership is gonna be about connecting the business to society in a sustainable manner. It will be about the intersection between the company you work for and the host community that supports you. It is gonna be about the intersection between the business you run, and the ecosystem around you. Leadership will be re-defined around who's leading who to good."
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Three things I want to comment on, each of them underlined above. First, defending the promise behind the mission speaks to the realities that an organization produces. There must be value added to people's lives from whatever is produced, in all areas of production. No longer are organizations going to be allowed to produce great shoes for us Americans, while paying unfair wages and providing unfit working conditions for others. The promise behind the mission speaks to the actual, physical, tangible realities that any organization produces. I LOVE THIS. It fits who I am in terms of wanting to believe in something grand and bigger than myself, but measured by what is actually produced. In my line of work, serving through a local church (albiet MEGA in size), defending the promise behind our mission is insuring people are actually transformed into better people that have meaning in their lives, not just empty talk that produces nothing.
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Secondly, this idea of sustainability is becoming more and more important. The most recent sermon series at my church was on this very topic. The days of NON-sustainability living are passing away. The consumption that proliferates my culture can not keep up. It simply can not. And God knows I have so much work to do in this area myself. But helping create in lives, create structures, or create organizations that are sustainable is quickly becoming a passion of mine. I think Tim Sanders is correct, people are not going to get behind businesses and organizations in the future that conduct themselves in non-sustainable ways. Tim suggests quite the opposite actually, that they are going to punish those businesses that operate in non-sustainable ways by not investing or buying from them.
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For a great example of a different kind of business model, check out toms shoes. They are wicked comfortable (so I am told), unique...and for every pair purchased they give a pair away. (http://www.tomsshoes.com/).
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Finally, Leadership will be re-defined by who is leading who to good. Isn't that the kind of person you want to follow? Someone who is leading you to good? NOT the kind of good that simply makes us feel better about ourselves...the kind of good that is hedonistic or self-seeking. But that which is really good, the idealistic, better for everyone kind of good. The sustainable kind of good. The kind of good that is still good for the next generation, for my kids and for my grandkids. That is the kind of leader I to follow, and the kind of leader I want to strive to be like.
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So what good are you doing today?

Known for our love? Defend the space.

Jim Henderson was at church to speak to our Covenant Community (the membership of our church) at Grace Community Church on Friday and Saturday morning, November 9 & 10. Basically the deal with his book is Jim hired an athiest to attend 10 churches with him around the country and they wrote about what they experienced. It is a fascinating little book, and many are getting pretty worked up about it. You can learn more about Jim and his organization at:

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http://www.offthemap.com/

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Two things that have stuck with me in a big, big way from our time with Jim Henderson. First, he told a story of when he was in the South speaking to a church and he hired two athiests to be interviewed in front of this church he was speaking. He asked this biker bar owner and this medical doctor from India the following question: If you could tell Christians one thing and they would listen to you, and it would increase their credibility with you, what would you say? (Okay, I can't remember if this is the exact questions, but this is the jist of it).

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The biker dude said "You should do more of the stuff you do when there is a hurricane."

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The doctor said, "you should really get along with one another more. Lutheran, Baptists, Catholics...why don't you get along more?"

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And I thought, yes!! Followers of Jesus SHOULD be known for the good works that they do, and for the way they love...especially one another. It saddens me that this is not the case.

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Second thing that stuck with me is the idea of "Defending the Space" of our relationships. There are typically three reactions that church people have to his book and things they want to talk about when he speaks. First is his "aberrent beliefs"...they feel the need to talk theology with Jim and "correct" him, or tell Matt that he is going to hell. Second, they want to talk about his expeirences at the churches and what kind of services they should put together. Jim is quick to add caveats that he was not a very effective pastor when he was a pastor, and Matt Casper is an athiest. They are NOT experts in this arena.

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Less often is the case (and the real reason the book was written) do people want to talk about the space between Matt Casper (the athiest) and Jim Henderson (the lover of Jesus) and protecting that space. He spoke about moving from debate to dialogue, or from apologetics to apology, and a number of other really helpful ideas concerning our relationships with other people. But that which is most important is the space of relationship between Matt and Jim.

It seems to me that Jim has captured something true in our culture...how we are consumers and our churches are steeped in catering to consumers. And he has also captured some helpful thoughts in how to relate to "the other", what it feels like to be outside of the mainstream. And he does so in some powerful ways. I am very grateful for the book and even more so, for having Jim here with us.